They operate with an "if I can't have you, nobody can" mentality.

Cases with survival abusers are more likely to result in murder-suicides.

17, Mc Kenna was asleep in a hotel with her parents who had come in for the weekend from Long Island, Cohan was in bed at her home in Rochester, and Sobieraski had just woken up to her phone vibrating, which she answered from her room in Buffalo. "No one in the house heard a thing, so we have no idea how things played out,” said Sobieraski, referring to other housemates who were there at the time of the murders. While the exact details of that night and why Kingston chose to do what he did, remain unknown, one thing that's been made evident is that the reach of dating violence extends far beyond what one might assume as the traditional definition."Nothing that I ever saw would have made me think that something like this would ever happen," said Mc Kenna. Waiting for the doors to open for the remembrance ceremony in the Kuhl Gymnasium of the SUNY Geneseo campus for Kelsey Annese, 21, of Webster and Matthew Hutchinson, 24, of North Vancouver, British Columbia, who were stabbed to death by former student Colin Kingston.

“But I'm very thankful and grateful that nobody in the house was the one to open (Annese’s) door."Shock. SUNY Geneseo director of admissions Kevin Reed, son Kyle, 9, and daughter Abby, 11, react during the remembrance ceremony for Kelsey Annese, 21, of Webster and Matthew Hutchinson, 24, of North Vancouver, British Columbia, who were stabbed to death by former student, Colin Kingston. Attendees wait in silence for the doors to open before the remembrance ceremony in the Kuhl Gymnasium of the SUNY Geneseo campus for Kelsey Annese, 21, of Webster and Matthew Hutchinson, 24, of North Vancouver, British Columbia.

She said that the two didn't become friends until their time at Geneseo, where they both played basketball and attended school, but that she had known who Annese was from their youth sports careers."I would always hate playing against her because she had the longest arms," Cohan said with a laugh.

While Sobieraski and Mc Kenna said that they didn't know much about Kingston, Cohan said that she spent the summer between her sophomore and junior years of college hanging out with Annese, Kingston and a third friend from Rochester. "I honestly never thought a bad thing about him and that just made the whole thing that much more confusing."Robert A.

Mc Kenna, Cohan and Sobieraski all said that prior to the tragedy, they had only limited conversations about dating violence throughout their schooling, if any at all."I honestly can’t tell you a time we spoke about dating violence before this happened.

We might have just talked about it in high school, but you see it in the news," she said.

The assailant was identified as Colin Kingston, 24, of Geneseo.

Mc Kenna said that while she didn't really know Kingston, she would always see him in the stands at basketball games."I always thought that it was really nice of him to be there," she said.

Females between the ages of 16 and 24 are three times more likely than the rest of the population to be abused by an intimate partner.

The chance of that violence turning deadly increases by more than 70 percent directly after a victim chooses to leave.

Experts say preventative measures should start as early as pre-K.